by Tina Seymour Demoran, Esquire

If you have minor children and have yet to select a guardian, you are not unlike many parents who put off this critically important task while waiting for the perfect solution to present itself.

Or perhaps you and your spouse/partner cannot agree on who would be the ideal guardian for your kids.

Here is your solution: DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT.

If you do nothing, the decision about who would raise your children (if something were to happen to you) would be left up to a judge to decide.

A judge…who doesn’t know you, doesn’t know what’s important to you, and doesn’t know your children…will make all the decisions about who cares for the people who are most important to you in the world.

I know that’s not what you want.

Truth is …there may never be a perfect solution for you, but there is definitely a solution that is better than your children being raised by someone you didn’t choose.

Perhaps you think the way so many parents do:  “If we avoid talking about or planning for it, it will never happen, right?”

Then I guess that means you don’t need things like insurance or any other type of protection since bad things never happen to good people, right?

Wouldn’t it be great if that were true?

However, responsible parents protect their children, and that means you must think about the unthinkable.

Fortunately, there is a sensible approach to the selection of a guardian for your children that makes it a lot easier.

First, sit down with your spouse or significant other and draw up a list of all potential people you would be willing to have raise your children.

Don’t judge anyone on the list or even consider whether they would be willing. Just make as long a list as you can of all the people you know who you know, like and trust that your children know, like and trust. It can be helpful if each of you and your parenting partner make these lists separately and then compare notes later.

Then, put your list(s) aside.

Now, make a list of your most important values when it comes to raising your children.

Things to consider:  prior relationship with your children, education level, discipline philosophy or parenting style.

Under no circumstances would you want to consider the financial resources of the people you are considering because it’s up to you to provide enough financial resources for your children and the people you’ve named as their guardians.

Finally, rank your values and compare those values to your list of potential guardians and put each of those people (or couples) in order first, second and third.

Once you have your list, check it against these practical considerations:

• Does your child know them? Ideally, your guardian selection will be someone your child already knows and trusts.

• Do they live close by? It is probably not ideal to uproot your children from their local community if you can help it.

• Do they share your values? You will want to choose someone who can raise your children with the same values and beliefs that you would.

• How old are they? Choosing an elderly person as guardian could mean that your children could lose them too at a tender age.

• Do they already have a family? If your choice as guardian already has children of their own, would your children blend in well with their family?

• Are they willing to take on the responsibility?  Hopefully the person you choose as guardian would welcome the responsibility, but not everyone does. Be sure you have a candid conversation with them before you name them as guardian.


DON’T WAIT….make 2019 the year you put the proper protections in place for your family by calling an attorney and getting your affairs in order.

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